Beyond the Silent Burden: Healing for Wives Impacted by Pornography Addiction

There are few things in a marriage that make a woman feel as ashamed and betrayed as a spouse’s affair, pornography addiction or abuse. Although the transgression is not ours, the feelings of shame and embarrassment are strong inside, oftentimes accompanied by an outward pressure to be seen as someone who “has it all together.” You wake up the next morning wishing this wasn’t your new reality, feeling unable to tell anyone else about it. These are the most difficult burdens for a wife to bear, made even more challenging because of the constant temptation to never share what’s going ...

Treasuring Christ When Your Hands Are Full: Gospel Meditations for Busy Moms [Book Review]

Let’s face it; whether you have one child or four, parenthood is hard. Sleepless nights, runny noses, a moody or unruly child, challenges beyond our control (did I mention sleepless nights) make it difficult. We know Scripture says that children are blessing from the Lord, but in the reality of our flesh, in our tired weary states of parenting, “blessed” is not always how we feel or think about our children. Treasuring Christ When Your Hands Are Full: Gospel Meditations for Busy Moms by Gloria Furman is a refreshing take on the challenges, humor and sanctifying moments of motherhood. Composed with ...

The 5 Most Important Things Moms Should Schedule (hint: Not Play Dates)

This February I gave birth to our fourth son, Riley. Life with a newborn is hard. The sleepless nights, constant feedings, caring for your other children and the basics of everyday life like food and baths require a lot of sacrifice and love. It’s the “I can’t remember the last time I brushed my teeth” kind of tired. This season of life with young children can be daunting and if I’m not careful, I can quickly get overwhelmed and frustrated by focusing on all I haven’t gotten done or am not doing. As I live the day-to-day with our kiddos ...

When You Are the Prodigal

Many of us are familiar with the story of the prodigal son from the book of Luke where Jesus is telling His listeners about two brothers. The younger brother, (the prodigal), decides he wants to do life on his own and that he doesn’t need his dad, just his money, so he can go and live a fun life and do whatever he wants. So the son, having received his inheritance, goes off on his adventure for a lifetime of partying, drinking and sex. Eventually the money and fun run out. He finds himself friendless, homeless and starving, eventually coming ...

When Should I See A Counselor?

We all experience different seasons of life. Sometimes we have good stress, sometimes we have bad stress and what can feel like ever-changing circumstances. We experience the joys of graduation and weddings. Perhaps we have the blessing of the birth of our own child or grandchild. There are also times when we may experience hurt that can surprise us with how deeply it cuts: bullies at school or work, spousal abuse or neglect, etc. We’re more than familiar with life’s ups and downs but how do you know when you should see a counselor? Below are some examples of the ...

Sexual Abuse: Beauty for Ashes [Book Review]

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An Honest, Biblical Depiction of the Damage Done Sexual Abuse: Beauty for Ashes is one in a series of six new booklets from The Gospel for Real Life Series. Written by Dr. Bob Kellemen, the booklet serves as an invaluable resource because oftentimes as a counselor it feels there are few biblically-based resources on sexual abuse. As a booklet, it is not intended to be an exhaustive resource, but at the same time it still provides a thorough examination of the sexual abuse of Tamar from 2 Samuel 13 demonstrating how the Bible speaks to this type of suffering in our lives. The audience ...

How to Choose the “Right” Counselor: The 4 C’s of Finding the Best Fit

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M aking the decision to seek out professional counseling is a huge step for one’s personal growth and healing. It’s scary to share the details of your life with a stranger and takes courage to make that initial call and schedule an appointment. Sometimes we feel embarrassed or bad about needing to go to counseling and, for the most part, people are usually nervous about going to counseling, no matter what the issue is. However, getting the help you need (before things get really bad) is worth it. It’s like getting regular physical exercise. You do so in order ...

When Your Husband is Addicted to Pornography [Book Review]

A Candid Look at a Spiritual Battle Addiction to pornography, lust, and masturbation are often a taboo topic left publicly unaddressed in the church. While there are many resources for those actually struggling with addiction, the resources for those suffering from a husband’s addiction seem fewer. The pervasiveness of porn addiction in both the culture and churches makes it a topic not only for preaching and men’s accountability groups, but also for female biblical counselors as they journey with the spouses of porn-addicted men coming through our doors. When Your Husband Is Addicted to Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart by Vickie Tiede is ...

Gospel Conversations: How to Care Like Christ [Book Review]

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What is a Gospel Conversation Anyway? What does it look like to help others apply the gospel to their daily lives as they grapple with the realities of suffering and sin? What does it mean to have true-to-life conversations that are seasoned with the gospel? How do we help others become more like Christ as they walk through life’s storms? “The essence of gospel conversations is helping one another to understand and apply the gospel to the details of our lives as saints who struggle with suffering and sin.” Gospel Conversations gives a clear path to the way in which the ...